100 best lines from ‘The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships’
People are made to need each other. But they haven’t learned how to live with each other. — Rainer Werner FassbinderAuthored by Neil Strauss in 2015, this book is an attempt to figure out where so many people go wrong, again and again, when it comes to relationships and marriage — and if there’s a better way to live, love, and make love. Any invasive medical procedure — even something as commonplace as a circumcision or getting stiches — may register the exact same as physical abuse if you experience it in your first few years of life. But if you can detach from yourself a little bit, you’ll notice that the things you do and think don’t just come out of nowhere
One way to recognize when you’re stuck in your own story is whenever you feel less than or better than others.It isn’t until we start developing an honest, compassionate, and functional relationship with ourselves that we can begin to experience a healthy, loving relationship with others. Intimacy problems come from a lack of self-love. Someone who fears intimacy thinks, unconsciously, ‘If you knew who I actually was, you’d leave me’. The avoidant is very good at seducing, in the sense that he has an uncanny ability to find out what his partner needs and give it to her. Because he was usually enmeshed, he gets his worth and value from taking care of needy people.
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